#CHOPPER MOVIE ELLO POPPET CODE#
They know that they have you where they want you when you’re defending yourself instead of seeing this as a code red.Ī Chopper wants to cut you down because it builds them up. It’s important to realise that a Chopper has no shame about making something up. One reader told me that she was told off for dropping things and not being a good driver. “I don’t know if I could be in a serious relationship or love someone that did _” It is likely to be something really dumb. “I prefer a woman with bigger breasts / white / Christian…” and you have smaller breasts or are not white or are a different religion. “You’re not as clever as you think you are you know….” “You’re going to cheat on me aren’t you? I can feel it.” Eventually it’s likely to be them cheating on you. “You wanted to be with that guy/girl didn’t you?” and you’re thinking What the hell are they talking about? It came out of left field and was completely untrue. Next thing you’re downplaying yourself.Īn ex of mine basically accused me of being shallow and said that I’d tire of him because my ex before him worked in IT and earned more money. You’re likely to worry about this when you’ve been treated as if being intelligent or having achievements is a ‘bad’ thing that makes those around you feel bad. You’re so superior.” I’ve heard from a number of readers who’ve had the “superior” accusation and it preys on their worst fear because it’s something they’d already worried about. There may be subtle signs of what’s to come but the writing’s on the wall when they make an outrageous statement / accusation that you feel that you have to defend yourself against. They’ll often point blank deny that what they’ve said is inappropriate and may accuse you of being oversensitive, no doubt adding another black mark to their mental dossier on you. While some Choppers are obviously aggressive, it’s covert aggression often with a ‘Poor Poor Me’ attitude that somehow has them criticising you while portraying themselves as a victim. There is likely to be a time early in the relationship, possibly unbeknownst to you where the Chopper perceived you to be ‘better’ and then they took up their mandate of changing this. What’s truly gobsmacking is that the Chopper has the audacity to judge and appoint themselves as ‘experts’ in the first place.
Why does someone want to chop you down and even more importantly, how can you end up being sucked in by a Chopper and believing their crap?
Choppers and their manipulative, abusive behaviour are insidious – their true selves creep up on you and by the time you accept what you’re dealing with, they’ve often robbed you of the strength to leave. They’ll drain you of your confidence, weaken your defences, and bolster their own weak selves by chopping at you to ‘level’ you or even elevate themselves. I’ve met and read about a number of people who’ve been involved with a ‘Chopper’, someone who finds your ‘hot spots’ or makes them up (yes really) and engages in criticism and mind games to knock you off your centre and chop you down. Tags: Abusive Relationships, Am I too sensitive?, Choppers, Fast Forwarding, Future Fakers, Future Faking, I'm not good enough belief, mind fuckery, passive aggression, shame, verbal and emotional abuse
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